Gossip….. It is hard to know when it is discussion and when it is gossip…. when it is a legitimate expression of concern and when it is gossip… when it is people discussing a problem for the purpose of finding a sloution and when it is gossip. It is a problem within my family, my brothers and sisters. I can understand how it happens… one person is upset or concerned and they talk to someone… and that person adds their 2 cents and passes it on to someone else. But, when is it gossip??? Sometimes the line is hard to define.
There is a current subject… I just learned that much of what i have been told and believed is, shall we say, incomplete. Whether that is strictly from insufficiant information or if information has been discounted as unimportant at some point and dropped, i do not know, but it makes me question everything i have been told. The thing that bothers me most is that i have passed along this incomplete information which decidedly slants things; I have made statements and agreed with conclusions; I have thought bad things and said so.
I am now trying to tell everyone the new information in an effort to make things right, but who knows how much good it will do. Some people have formed their opinion and do not wish to look at the new information that puts things in a better light. I feel bad.
I prefer to givre people the benefit of the doubt, to think the best of people. I do not like realizing that i gossip……..
gossip = forwarding things you heard about.
Unfortunatly our language is nauanced and keeping the original message is impossible without a direct audio/visual recording. (only a fraction of the message is contained in the words; the majority comes from tone, timber,beat, motions, ect of the person speaking)
I don’t feel bad that I occassionally gossip. It’s what people do. I take care to not believe everything I hear and I keep an open mind. At least, I try to.
No one is perfect.